Honoring Commitment & Marriage

“Love begins at home, and it is not how much we do…but how much we put in that action.” – Mother Teresa

On April 10th my husband Doug and I celebrated our 15th wedding anniversary!

LockOfLoveFence_JenniferVisscherWe have never been much on extravagant displays or purchases especially ones that are used to convey love. I love finding or creating a gift that “feels just right.” You know the feeling of giving something that you know has been thought over or run across somewhere where you say to yourself, “YES, that is the right gift!” Contrast that to the item purchased in a rush that can feel settled upon. I continue to try to purchase gifts when I find something just so or create when I can but I have a very difficult time holding onto that gift until the day it is supposed to be given. Does anyone else do this? Then I end up struggling to find a gift for the specific occasion! Oy! I’m working on my approach to giving gifts but some people always seem to hit the right note.

Anyway, back to our anniversary…OurLock_JenniferVisscher

In Portland there is a love lock fence that happened organically most likely modeled after the one in Paris. I love the idea behind a love lock – a commitment is created by two people locking their love around a permanent fence and throwing away the key (in this case into the water of the harbor below!) In passing one day I said I’d love to put a lock on this local fence. I guess Doug filed that for later because at Christmas I opened a gift of a Master Lock! This to me was the perfect example of a gift with meaning and value but not a big price – my favorite kind! Once we realized we would be spending our anniversary in the area it only made sense that we would put the lock up on a day suited for such a thing. I put some paint on the lock to help us distinguish it in the coming years when we happen to walk by but it needed… something. And then it hit me – it needed some glitter! And my lovely husband just shook his head and said, “of course it needed glitter” and laughed –  knowing me, getting me.

LockingOurLove_JenniferVisscherHere is our lock of love! We sealed it with a kiss and vowed to place another lock on the fence in another 10 or 15 years. I don’t care if to others it might seem trite or predictable – not for you to say! For us it struck… just the right note!

This was a way to honor us. To honor one another. To honor our commitment and our love and mark the day in a way that worked beautifully for us. We need to find the time for such things in life for we are richer for these mini ceremonies and dedications.

As for a gift from me to my husband on our anniversary – I’m still looking.



Until I see you all again, live in joy & color… and LOVE!





The Earth Laughs In Flowers

“The earth laughs in flowers” – Ralph Waldo Emerson


I love to create and tend a garden.

I am so very ready for spring – aren’t you? Since we moved to Maine last July this will be our first spring in our new home. There is much to do and much to discover and we await it with baited breath as the chill in the air holds on still.

I feel a huge sense of accomplishment in watching my vegetable garden come to life. Eating foods you have sown, tended, and picked feels real. It feels right to me and it is a hobby that keeps me active, intrigued, and engaged. But I plant flowers to see the pallet and texture of a composition come to life. I thrill when the first buds start to appear in the spring and I feel like the perennials who come back to visit me each year, thriving a bit more with time and care, become my friends. I speak to them – in my mind anyway as I walk past, “Hello Ms. Butterfly Bush, your purple is looking especially vibrant today!” And,”Ooh Hollyhock, I’m sorry to hear you are having such a bad case of the grasshoppers.” Flowers are joy and love and laughter.

Pick a posy; laugh with the earth!

Until tomorrow.